Thanks rodw, I ended up reinstalling it a 4th time and linuxCNC seems to be running on sim AXIS. Thanks to your documentation here: docs.google.com/document/d/1jeV_4VKzVmOI...I_PhCm1x7oiw8VcLFdiY
Made that much easier no issues following along with it.
So thanks for that, I am working on networking next.
I like to use anydesk to connect to it and it doesn't seem to work with wayland so I was happy to use the XFCE you recommended.
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