Same settings, different result

Hi guys i have been updating to the latest 2.9.3 pre-empt iso and seem to have an issue with my settings.
The last time i set up the machine i had a nuc which had realtek nics because i was running debian 10 i was able to select a slightly older board to make the compatibility, but with the debian 12 i have moved on to a slightly newer computer with intel 226 nics.

This newer board seems fine but i am having issues that i can't pin down.
So in summary i can't latch out of e-stop.the settings are the same, but it seems to be an issue.
 

Oh, yeah. so i was wondering if my assumption is correct, in that i am having trouble because of the ethernet controller...
Do you know of any reason that the intel nics would be an issue?

More information is needed, Does LinuxCNC run?

If LinuxCNC runs and you don't get communication errors ("error finishing read!")
Your issue is not likely Ethernet related.

Ok, but there aren't that many things that could be different between the two systems i now have...
I am just stuck thinking of what it could be...