No it is not that they go into the alarm state by themselves, I force them into the alarm, in order to be sure my connections work - and they dont...
I still cannot get rid of the alarm neither with the iocontrol.0.user-request-enable nor with the machine-is -enabled signal.
I connected all 3 ENA+ inputs from the servos to pin 4 Dir4- (gpio

and reduced the stepgens to 4 and put
loadrt estop_latch
addf estop-latch.0 servo-thread
net estop-loopout iocontrol.0.emc-enable-in <= estop-latch.0.ok-out
net estop-loopin iocontrol.0.user-enable-out => estop-latch.0.ok-in
setp hm2_7i76e.0.gpio.008.is_output true
net estop-reset => hm2_7i76e.0.gpio.008.out
net estop-reset => iocontrol.0.user-request-enable
net estop-reset => estop-latch.0.reset
net remote-estop estop-latch.0.fault-in <= [HMOT](CARD0).7i76.0.0.input-12-not
in my hal file.